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Esther’s journal's avatar

This is what I posted on my WhatsApp status! I’m tired of the stereotype people have towards feminism

We don’t hate men, we are simply fighting for equity.

And the worst part of is that, your fellow gender will think you’re doing too much because they’re so afraid to embrace the topic so they won’t appear as a pick me😂

Who cares anyways.

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

I don't care anymore. Wo! On my last article, someone asked if I had to add the feminism part (my gender btw)

Absofriggin-lutely

unspokenthoughts's avatar

I love how you say equity and not equality.

lee_maooo's avatar

Iii think it's equality not equity.

CuriousFayyy's avatar

Why do you think it should be equality and not equity?

Dumebi^=^'s avatar

I'm not really sure you know the difference dear 😔

Husseinah Ohinoyi's avatar

I actually think Feminism is tied to both concepts: Equality is simply asking for fair rights, where everyone gets equal opportunity or access to their basic human rights.

Equity on the other hand, addresses the need for systems to be put in place that allows everyone gets the support necessary to meaningfully access the opportunity. A simple example will be:

Let’s say the standard breakfast is Milk in a boarding house

1. Everyone is given one can of milk each to have for breakfast = Equality

2. Everyone is given milk for breakfast while noting that some people are lactose intolerant and maybe a regulated ration is given based on their needs, or they have access to optional meal for breakfast.

But they sure will have breakfast like everyone else without being affected by what is the systemic operandi for breakfast. I hope this explains it.

They’re closely related, but they have their own specifics. Las las they both remain mechanisms for pursuing fairness.

Ifeoluwapo✨'s avatar

Ouuuu, I love this. Can't wait for Feminism 102!

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Soon babesss 🥹

Mr. Tee's avatar

This is feminism explained not the half-baked understanding of social stratification and dynamics packaged as feminism by an ignoramus who believes men are the only problem cum cause of the female problems.

They post every clip where men are the beast but act as if they did not see the clips where women are the devil. I tried reasoning with one, this is the third month since we last spoke or communicated 🤷

Feminism preaches equality not stereotyping, you can't afford to be what you are trying to destroy!

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Exactlyyyy ❤️

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Exactlyyyy ❤️

DEO's avatar

Reading this article made me ask some intriguing questions

An example is, can you be Christian and a feminist?

I know some Christians that probably shake their heads at my status 😭😂 because they don’t understand what feminism at its core means. Yes, I’m tired of explaining too.

My answer is yes, though

It makes me go deeper to even more heated debates, like abortion

Can you hold on to the belief that God’s creation is sacred and should be protected, and then support abortion rights?

Your article explained very well, that feminism isn’t suppose to fit it into or agree with your religion. I believe in that. It’s up to you then to choose what takes precedent in your life.

Now, as a Christian, my personal convictions shape the choices I would make for myself. For example, I wouldn’t choose abortion because of my understanding of my faith and the value I believe human life has.

At the same time, as a feminist, I don’t believe my personal religious convictions should become a standard that every other woman must live by. Feminism, to me, includes respecting women’s autonomy to make decisions about their own live and even when I wouldn’t make the same decision myself.

serious Ink's avatar

You are right. Being a feminist and being a Christian may contradict at times but it's all leading to your conclusion which I love. In all sums up to respecting women's choices and autonomy even though you have your personal preferences

𝔸𝕗𝕠𝕜𝕖 𝔼𝕕𝕒𝕗𝕖's avatar

Serious talk from Serious knowledge.

Chioma_Writes 🎀✨'s avatar

Girrll you atee with thiss!! 🤭💗💗

It's straight to my WhatsApp status bcus that's how one boy was telling me Feminism is a sin and as some one who believes in God I should not be a feminist...I was soo vexeddd 😭😭

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Feminism is not supposed to be righteous 😂

Just calm down okay, no need to get worked up anymore. I'm here for you.

Chioma_Writes 🎀✨'s avatar

Okayy girrll 🤭🎀

I do believe that Feminism is a very right and humane movement as it involves empathy and I'll say love to be practiced.

So if we choose to look at it from a religious point, which I do sometimes when talking to people. It is indeed a righteous thing and should not be seen as a "sin". It's seen as that because to some men it apparently stripes them of their in born right to be the " head" of the woman. The thing just pisses me off.

Plus if you ask them why now they'll say because they were made first...Animals were made first, are tgey nau superior? 😭😭

CuriousFayyy's avatar

And the Bible did not even say that Man is the head of woman. The Bible says a husband is the head of his wife - which is very different from all men being the head of all women.

Chidera.'s avatar

This is what I found because apparently, the Bible was translated many times to fit the perspective of a lot of men.

Corinthians 11:3, "But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God".

CuriousFayyy's avatar

I don't even think 1 Corinthians 11:3, on its own, establishes the headship of every man over every woman.

Till this day, there is still disagreement among Bible scholars as to the scope of the headship Paul meant in that passage. The Greek word used for "man" is anēr, which can mean either "man" or "husband", and the Greek word used for "woman" is gunē, which can mean either "woman" or "wife", depending on the context.

If you look across different Bible translations, you'll notice that some translate the verse using "husband" and "wife" instead of "man" and "woman". There are even translations that use Adam and Eve, reflecting the understanding that Paul is referring to the first husband and wife.

Because the passage is debated, I think it's appropriate to interpret it in light of other Scriptures. When we come to Ephesians 5:23 (which was also written by Paul), he explicitly says that "the husband is the head of the wife," not that "every man is the head of every woman." Interestingly, the same Greek words (anēr and gynē) are used in Ephesians 5:23, yet the context clearly points to "husband" and "wife" rather than "man" and "woman."

So, from my study, I don't think 1 Corinthians 11:3, by itself, establishes the headship of every man over every woman.

Chidera.'s avatar

Thank you! 😊

Rhoda's avatar

There's this content creator that always hammers on feminism being demonic lol 😂.... If you can guess

Chidera.'s avatar

I had a sound debate with a friend, I told him about feminism being equal rights. He asked me a question, " since it's equal rights, if a woman hits a man, it's right for the man to hit back?" I crashed out because I feel he missed the point. I didn't know what to say at that point.

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Send him this and the book.

Pertaining his question, I'd answer that in feminism for dummies 102. Do well to read it my darling. 😭❤️

I know how tiring it is to explain to these people. Don't sweat too much next time

Chidera.'s avatar

I will, thank you!

EJ Fitz's avatar

If a woman hits a man she has committed a violent offence. If a man hits her back in retaliation and not self defence, he has also committed a violent offence.

Anyone hitting anyone is against the law. Certain types of men think this argument is a gotcha, but it just demonstrates how illogical and stupid they are.

CuriousFayyy's avatar

While I’m yet to read the feminism for dummies 102, I believe that anybody who hits first(man or woman) should also be ready/expect to be hit back😂

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Did you peep my syllabus or have you been reading ahead?

You're an A+ student

CuriousFayyy's avatar

I got a peep into your syllabus so that I could read ahead😂

I love to see a lady who doesn’t support all of women’s wrong because of feminism🤭🤭 Can’t wait to read “feminism for dummies 102”

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

I'm excited to write ittt 😭

Chidera.'s avatar

True oo! But him, using it in this context, is somewhat wrong, no?

CuriousFayyy's avatar

Yes, I believe it shouldn’t have been used in that context as it sounds defensive.

But in itself, the reasoning is logical.

Chidera.'s avatar

Yes.

Fatima Denga's avatar

Hitting people is violence is not "Human Rights". It is an offence

Modioluwamu's Pen's avatar

I love this😭❤️!!! I just kept giving thumb ups throughout my read, you drove the point home girlllll!!!

My first "official" contact with Feminism was in We all should be feminists and Dear Ijeawele by Chimamanda Adichie.

It's so funny how other girls see you as doing too much just because you're a feminist and also those girls who want the rights without the responsibilities, we need to talk about them.

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Exactly

Thank youuuu.

Dzidzi's avatar

I love it... I laughed throughout this read. I love how you write.

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

I'm glad you understand the underlying sarcasm😂❤️

Thank youuuu 🥹

Nyambu's avatar

I will say

Most people misunderstand feminism as “man hating.” But the idea of feminism is gender equality, not female superiority and Men can be feminists too if they support that principle.

I don’t know how simpler we can explain this.

You already made it simple that a 9 year old would understand.

Oma Ceeree's avatar

the X = Z = Y breakdown lived in my head rent free for a full minute. I've been in arguments where I KNEW I was right and just didn't have the words for it, and this is literally that but with math so nobody can even argue lol

also "internet feminism" being its own category?? unfortunately necessary. half the discourse I see is just vibes and screenshots dressed up as a movement. saving this to send every time someone tries me in the comments 🫡

Chomicho's avatar

📌📌📌 Sending this to every woman I know who doesn't want to be a feminist because "they are bitter and hate men". No honey, that is definitely not why we are here.

TalkOma's avatar

I've come to realize that I haven't met such beautiful writers as you. Woww😂

I enjoyed every bit of humor.

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Awww. I'm happy you think I'm one of them.

Thank youuuu

yourlocal's avatar

INTERSECTIONAL FEMINISM ...focuses on how the patriachal system ,race,class etc affect women in society....its kind of like how everything intertwines

Kwugò's footprints.'s avatar

I shared this article on my WhatsApp and it made me remember one time a full grown adult male (that has been an adult for a long time) randomly posted, “A woman has no religion until she marries”.

I don't even know if to call him a “man” or a “guy”, because calling him “a man” feels so hard.

Smh.

Mae's avatar

I enjoyed every bit of your writing. No more arguments in big 2026. You don’t know what feminism means??? I’d just send this . Let me go and check Feminism 102

Ziv's avatar

Can you talk about Misandry?

Bubbles 🫧's avatar

Stick around for feminism 102🥹